Five Tarot Cards for Self-Love

Every September, tarot reader, lightworker, and all around goddess Kelly-Ann Maddox hosts Self-Love September, a celebration and an affirmation of the relationship we have with ourselves.

She posts content every other day for the whole of September discussing all manner of topics (confronting addiction, learning to trust your intuition, and forming strong boundaries have all popped up on the docket this year). For the past two years, she’s opened this celebration to the general public by inviting others to share their stories and struggles with self-love with the hashtags #selflovesept and #selflovestories so we can all find them and learn from their wisdom.

My self-love journey has been a long and arduous one. It may seem like I’ve always been this confident/prolific/active/involved, but I’ve spent plenty of time imprisoned by negative thought cycles and paralyzed by the false belief that I simply wasn’t good enough to see my dreams realized. Even though I’ve largely put my false belief system to bed and have embraced the expression of my truest self, I still have days when doubts creep in and threaten to slow my momentum. It’s on those days that I flip through my deck and pull out the cards I find most self-loving and channel their kind, nurturing vibes.

The Star

This card is known as tarot’s “healer,” and its message is indefinitely one of gentle self-care. I’m known to take a ritual bath when I’m feeling particularly funky, and as I’m adding the herbs and the salt and the oils and the crystals to this gorgeous watery concoction, the image of The Star never fails to pop into my mind’s eye.

The Star The Fountain Tarot

The Fountain Tarot, Self-Published, 2014

When I’m super busy and feeling a little burnt out, I set The Star on my altar to remind me that it’s time to take a step back and hold space for myself so that my mind, body, and spirit gets the R&R it needs to recuperate and regenerate.

The Nine of Pentacles

This card is so badass and body-positive that I count it among my top five faves in all of tarot. This woman is at peace in her prosperity, is confident in the continuous flow of abundance and is able and capable of caring for herself and building her empire.

Nine of Pentacles RWS Centennial Tarot Deck

RWS Centennial Edition, US Games, 2009

Whenever I’m feeling the sting of failure or an opportunity doesn’t pan out, I look to the Nine of Pentacles to remind me that there’s no shortage of abundance in the universe and that one small setback can never derail my passion and commitment to being the best self I can be.

The Queen of Cups

This is a card I look to when I feel that my well has begun to run dry. I spend so much time counseling and advising others that I sometimes forget to reflect on my own emotional landscape.

Queen of Cups Ostara Tarot

Ostara Tarot, Schiffer Publishing, 2017

The Queen of Cups reminds me to pull out my journal and write my furious thoughts so I can reach catharsis and release when I’m dealing with something heavy. She asks me to pull out my tarot cards and do a reading for myself so I may be privy to the same level of insight I offer others. And she reminds me to disconnect when things are way too overwhelming and I need a recess with my thoughts and feelings.

The Hermit

The Hermit asks me to spend some serious time at the altar to reconnect with my spiritual practice.

The Hermit Mary El Tarot

The Mary-El Tarot, Schiffer Publishing, 2012

He’s the voice that says please sit down and meditate this morning when I’m itching to launch straight into writing mode. He’s the force that carries my feet on long and aimless walks through the city and he’s the question I ask when I’m looking to connect with the great vastness of everything. He represents my spiritual practice, and if spiritual practice isn’t a strong component of self-love, I don’t know what is.


There’s nothing more self-loving than recommitting yourself to temperance once you realize that you’ve dipped too far towards one extreme. We often fall out of balance when we feel insecure or out of control, and when fear and uncertainty guide our actions, we tend to make choices that don’t resonate with our highest good.

Temperance The Illuminated Tarot

The Illuminate Tarot, Clarkson Potter, 2017

Temperance is my year card this year, so I’ve deepened my relationship with the archetype to the extent that I know its importance in guiding us to a healthier, happier self. If you choose one card to channel on this list, let it be Temperance–your body, mind, and spirit deserve to feel well and in alignment.

Much Love and Happy Self-Love September,


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A Guide to Intuitive Tarot Reading

When I first tackled the behemoth that is tarot study, I armed myself with a deck, a beginner’s collection of tarot books, and a few blank journals to jot some notes in. Honestly, I didn’t think it was going to be that hard. I mean, I’d gotten down and dirty with Deleuze, Foucault, and Heidegger–what kind of challenge could divination cards give me? Turns out, quite a challenge. When you’re working with text, it’s literally spelled out for you, even if it is a bit abstract or archaic. There’s usually some sort of objective meaning to be gleaned, a central point that’s attempting to be made and that drives the essay forward. Not so with tarot, my friends. The visual and symbolic components invite much more subjectivity than one initially realizes, and the point, more or less, is revealed much more cyclically. Essentially, your subject matter is the same (universal archetypes), but the way it’s addressed and to what end is radically different. Therefore, commonly accepted study methods–repetition, memorization, and critical thinking–are not enough in terms of becoming a well-rounded, proficient reader. One must dip into more primal, esoteric energies–intuition, premonition, and spontaneous knowing. This is where the concept of intuitive tarot reading enters, that method which utilizes the imagery and symbolism readily apparent to the reader rather than commonly accepted card meanings. In my humble opinion, the most powerful readings incorporate both, resulting in a gorgeous balance of masculine and feminine energies. But, as the reader who inspired this post so accurately pointed out, there’s much more attention given to the former, and not nearly enough to the latter. So, let’s change that a little bit, shall we?

Methods of Reading Intuitively

From what I can glean, the extent to which readers read intuitively varies, as do their methods. Some readers never read a traditional tarot book and choose only to reference the guides that are specifically created for their decks. Thus, they aren’t necessarily approaching their readings with one of the three traditional systems (RWS, Thoth, Marseille) in mind. Rather, their knowledge is based off of the specific imagery conveyed in their deck and the meanings the deck creator chose to attribute to it. So, one who bases their reading of the Osho Zen Tarot on the guidebook and one who bases their reading of The Osho Zen Tarot on its RWS correspondences are going to provide two completely different readings. Likewise, one who approaches the Osho Zen as an oracle deck (it’s been known to happen and I’ve certainly done it from time to time) is going to pull something completely different from it–oracle cards are often read as entities in and of themselves and not necessarily a subsidiary part of a larger whole.


The Osho Zen Tarot, St. Martin’s Press, 1994

Another method of reading intuitively is to reference no system or guidebook at all. Rather, one riffs off of the images presented in the cards, interpreting what the cards mean as the reading progresses. In this sense, the reading is largely querent-focused and as such (in my opinion, anyway) is much more overtly directed towards what’s being asked. These types of intuitive readings seem to work best when done in person because they create a sense of equality amongst reader and querent that invites the querent to take an active role in the reading process. In some cases, the querent is given the opportunity to deliver input on which cards moved them or spoke to them, and so there’s much more of a psychological exploration going on than there would be if the reader were interpreting the cards based on her knowledge of esoteric modes and systems of thought. Actually, this is most often the method of reading used amongst therapists and psychologists–cards are flipped face up and the client is asked to rifle through and riff on those that jump out at them. In this process, the reader/therapist takes a bit of a backseat, gently guiding their client on a trip through the subconscious.


The Rider-Waite Centennial Edition, US Games Inc., 2010, The Wild Unknown Tarot, HarperElixir, 2016

 The last method of intuitive reading that I’ll offer here is the one I use most often: applying one of the three traditional systems when reading with a deck that isn’t wholly based on it. A good example of this is my approach to The Wild Unknown Tarot. From what I understand, the deck’s influenced by both the Marseille and RWS traditions, but given that I’m fluent in RWS, I simply approach it that way. Now, there were times when I first began working with the deck that I noticed that my understanding of a card simply didn’t add up with the imagery (the six of wands is a really good example of this). In this instance, I studied the imagery on the card and deciphered meaning based on that. Then, I reconciled my intuitive understanding with my traditional understanding to arrive at a holistic understanding of the card.

The Spontaneous Intuitive Read

Contrary to what the first section may suggest, intuitive reading isn’t solely based on the approach the reader takes with their deck of cards. Rather, intuitive interpretation can crop up in the middle of any reading for any reason whatsoever. In this case, the card in question speaks to the reader in a way that’s hardly related to the traditional meaning at all–she gets a feeling that it’s supposed to mean something radically different, and she chooses to trust that message over the one that the card would commonly convey. A few days ago, for example, a reading I was doing for a client had revealed a five of swords. However, I had an overwhelming feeling to read it like I would the five of wands. I didn’t really know why I had this feeling (nothing in the question indicated that this interpretation would be somehow “better” than the traditional one), yet I viewed it as a synchronistic occurrence and followed my intuition. There are readers for whom this admission would make them cry “blasphemy!” There are others still who’d question whether or not there was a distinct difference between them anyway. This is why the community of tarot is so amazing–every reader approaches the art in a way that’s unique and resonant with their own strengths and personality traits. No two readers read alike, so chances are, there’s a reader out there whose approach deeply jives with what you’re looking for. And this diversity can be attributable to the intuitive aspects of reading–those that deviate from the common meaning to add depth and richness to the form. Frankly, the vast array of tarot decks available to us as students and readers also do much in terms of coaxing these intuitive readings from us. If we were all using the RWS all the time, chances are there’d be much more similarities than we currently find.

Practicing Intuitive Reading

It may seem contradictory that one could practice intuitive reading. After all, isn’t it something that blossoms organically? For some, reading intuitively does come naturally–creative and spontaneous meaning generation is one of their strengths, and they can seamlessly connect the narrative of one card to the next. For others (the majority, I’ve found!), the ability to coax original, nuanced interpretations is a skill that must be practiced. There are a number of ways to go about doing this, but one that I’ve found most helpful is to create what I call tarot narratives. I think of a transformative or vivid experience that I’ve had and I choose a card from the tarot to represent it. Then, I record my experience through the lens of the card that I’ve chosen, paying keen attention to the myriad subtle ways it plays into the story. For me, this is more of an exercise for the subconscious–I’m attempting to create a web of connections that may not be readily apparent, but reveal themselves when something in a reading triggers them. Another way to practice intuitive reading is to pathwork the cards (I know I’ve mentioned pathworking copious times, but that’s only because of how instrumental it can be in expanding your understanding of tarot). When you project yourself into a card’s unique energy landscape, you can pick up on things you didn’t even know were there. Likewise, you can upload quite a bit to the hard-drive unconsciously to be accessed at a later date). When you’re reading for yourself, try identifying your question in the cards. Think of the answers you’re looking for and see if there’s any card that could speak directly to that answer. Say you’re trying to decide whether or not to switch careers. Which card indicates a potential career that you’re interested in? Which one represents the one you have currently? You can even use the two questions I just posed as the basis for card positions (1. My present career 2. My potential career) and figure out a way to relate the card to the position even if it seems to completely oppose it.


The Mary El Tarot, Schiffer Publishing, 2012

Another wonderful way is to buy a deck that’s based off of a system that you’re completely unfamiliar with and do readings for yourself based on the imagery alone. Don’t be afraid to speak stream of consciousness as you take in the imagery and symbolism and likewise offer an interpretation. And if you still find that your intuitive reading game is off, let a friend who knows nothing about tarot flip through one of your decks and riff on the cards. Take note of the creative process they undergo as they try to figure out what it all means. It’s inspiring, interesting, and it can teach you a hell of a lot about learning.

Much Love,


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